My fellow travelers
Finally, I am free. I'm glad they left, I'm glad I'm alone again. And I can fully enjoy the rest of my trip-- on my own.
I met three travelers from Anhui at DunHuang Train Station, my first stop. There were two guys and one girl in their group. Coincidentally, our travel plans were exactly the same: the next two weeks, we'd follow the same route, visiting the same places, even spend the same time on each spot. They asked me to join them: the girl there needed a companion, and four people would be a perfect group. I was a little bit reluctant because I didn't want to stay with a group the whole trip, but I said yes. As there'd be no buses taking me to the places I wanted to go. I had to find fellow travelers to share cars with me as I couldn't afford renting cars by myself. If I said no to them, I still needed to find new people.
So right on the first day of my trip, I had three partners. Though I was trying to leave them the rest of the days, I wouldn't say it was a wrong decision, as at that point, there were no better decisions I could make. The next few days, I didn't see any backpacking travelers around. If I was not with them, I'd probably end up with stuck in small towns, doing nothing. But untill today, I've visited all the spots I'd plan to visit in Gansu, and I've seen what I'd expect to see: desert, oasis, Gobi, snow mountain... They were all amazing, I was totally satisfied with these parts of the trip. But something was missing -- freedom. I was restricted, and it was not the type of the trip I wanted.
Let me tell you something about my fellows.
Yang, 27, was the leader of the group, a decision maker. He'd organized this trip and already made a perfect plan. Every day was well scheduled-- in the morning, he decided what time to get up and where we'd go on that day. During the day, he controlled everything also: how much time we spent on each spot, which hotels we stayed in, where and what to eat... At first I thought Yang was all right, but after two days, I was getting bored by his plans and tired of this guy. He always kept reminding us, " Hurry up, hurry up, time to go to the next destination." I just couldn't stand being told what to do and where to go.
It seems Yang has traveled to many places, but his experience makes him monotonous. To him, the whole trip is like a big task to accomplish. Each move he makes has to follow the plan. Moving from spot to spot isn't fun but giving him a sense of achievement.
Bai, 23, was the only girl in their group. She's the type of person you'd feel comfortable to be with, but she wouldn't give you too much surprise or excitement, and you wouldn't learn much from her. It was her first backpacking trip, and she was kinda nervous about it. She listened to everything Yang said, even when she didn't feel like doing certain things, she wouldn't say no. From Bai, I see many parts of the former me. Like she's been living in her hometown all her life, she'd never been to anywhere far away as she couldn't find any friends traveling with her. She told me the first few days trip made her much more confident of herself. She was happy to find out that she could stand tough trip, and she planed to do more-- making a trip to Tibet was her biggest dream.
Bai is two years older than me; from her, I also see the type of future I don't want to see. After graduating from the college, Bai found a regular job in her hometown because her family wanted their dear daughter to stay with them. Now, 23, she still lives with her family. She doesn't like her job, but changing isn't easy-- she didn't think she could do anything else well. Bai has week long vacations only twice a year, so she doesn't have much time to make long trips.
Comparing to her, my current life is so good. I've got plenty of free time to do whatever I want. But I can't help thinking, two years later, when I reach her age, what my life would be like. Will I still be so free or end up like her? I know life won't always be exciting and adventurous, but I want my life uncommon.
The last fellow was Liu, a total dork. He talked a lot, telling us stupid stories full of holes. Though already 36, he seemed like a baby who needed to be taken care of. He always asked us to carry his stuff for him. He couldn't stand cheap hotels, and formal meals were extremely important to him. "I'm hungry, stop the car! I need to eat!", "It's time for lunch, let's go to restaurant to have a big meal." " The trip is hard, we need to eat well!"... Eating was the only thing he really cared about. Yesterday we planned to climb a snow mountain. At the height of 4500m, he got sick. It was not that high, but his sickness screwed up our plan to reach the top of the mountain. He didn't feel a bit sorry about it and he considered going to somewhere over 4000m was something. Liu said getting sick was normal, we should thank him because if we kept going higher, we'd probably die of coldness. Come on loser, it was only -10C, and the top was 5100m; nobody but you would die in that condition.
I've stayed with these three travelers past four days. Enough. And I'm bored. If I kept staying with them, my whole trip would be ruined. So this morning, I told them I wanted to spend one more day in JiuQiuan, where I am now. They'd head to Inner Mongolia one day ahead of me, so I'm totally on my own again, great!
I think I don't like the way they travel-- well planned and always so hurry. Sometimes I just want to slow down, like lying on the desert watching sunset, running in an empty road till I'm exhausted, staying in a hotel room wring my travel stories... I want to explore new towns by wandering through their streets and talking to local people rather than simply visiting some most famous tourist spots there. I want to be left alone on the trains or buses, reading my books, listening to my music, and watching the views outside the window rather than feeling obliged to talk with my travel partners, guilt about I've got nothing to say.
Meeting fellow travelers on the way is cool. But like meeting people in our lives, some travelers are interesting, some are not, some even annoying. I'd like traveling with people I feel like being with. They have something to offer for their personalities and unique life experience, they have a good sense of humor, they know how to have fun and how to relax, and they respect each group member's opinions. But this time, I'm just not that lucky. Glad I've said goodbye to them; I'm free again, and I have opportunity to make new friends on the road. I'm still traveling, and I'll be moving on.
I met three travelers from Anhui at DunHuang Train Station, my first stop. There were two guys and one girl in their group. Coincidentally, our travel plans were exactly the same: the next two weeks, we'd follow the same route, visiting the same places, even spend the same time on each spot. They asked me to join them: the girl there needed a companion, and four people would be a perfect group. I was a little bit reluctant because I didn't want to stay with a group the whole trip, but I said yes. As there'd be no buses taking me to the places I wanted to go. I had to find fellow travelers to share cars with me as I couldn't afford renting cars by myself. If I said no to them, I still needed to find new people.
So right on the first day of my trip, I had three partners. Though I was trying to leave them the rest of the days, I wouldn't say it was a wrong decision, as at that point, there were no better decisions I could make. The next few days, I didn't see any backpacking travelers around. If I was not with them, I'd probably end up with stuck in small towns, doing nothing. But untill today, I've visited all the spots I'd plan to visit in Gansu, and I've seen what I'd expect to see: desert, oasis, Gobi, snow mountain... They were all amazing, I was totally satisfied with these parts of the trip. But something was missing -- freedom. I was restricted, and it was not the type of the trip I wanted.
Let me tell you something about my fellows.
Yang, 27, was the leader of the group, a decision maker. He'd organized this trip and already made a perfect plan. Every day was well scheduled-- in the morning, he decided what time to get up and where we'd go on that day. During the day, he controlled everything also: how much time we spent on each spot, which hotels we stayed in, where and what to eat... At first I thought Yang was all right, but after two days, I was getting bored by his plans and tired of this guy. He always kept reminding us, " Hurry up, hurry up, time to go to the next destination." I just couldn't stand being told what to do and where to go.
It seems Yang has traveled to many places, but his experience makes him monotonous. To him, the whole trip is like a big task to accomplish. Each move he makes has to follow the plan. Moving from spot to spot isn't fun but giving him a sense of achievement.
Bai, 23, was the only girl in their group. She's the type of person you'd feel comfortable to be with, but she wouldn't give you too much surprise or excitement, and you wouldn't learn much from her. It was her first backpacking trip, and she was kinda nervous about it. She listened to everything Yang said, even when she didn't feel like doing certain things, she wouldn't say no. From Bai, I see many parts of the former me. Like she's been living in her hometown all her life, she'd never been to anywhere far away as she couldn't find any friends traveling with her. She told me the first few days trip made her much more confident of herself. She was happy to find out that she could stand tough trip, and she planed to do more-- making a trip to Tibet was her biggest dream.
Bai is two years older than me; from her, I also see the type of future I don't want to see. After graduating from the college, Bai found a regular job in her hometown because her family wanted their dear daughter to stay with them. Now, 23, she still lives with her family. She doesn't like her job, but changing isn't easy-- she didn't think she could do anything else well. Bai has week long vacations only twice a year, so she doesn't have much time to make long trips.
Comparing to her, my current life is so good. I've got plenty of free time to do whatever I want. But I can't help thinking, two years later, when I reach her age, what my life would be like. Will I still be so free or end up like her? I know life won't always be exciting and adventurous, but I want my life uncommon.
The last fellow was Liu, a total dork. He talked a lot, telling us stupid stories full of holes. Though already 36, he seemed like a baby who needed to be taken care of. He always asked us to carry his stuff for him. He couldn't stand cheap hotels, and formal meals were extremely important to him. "I'm hungry, stop the car! I need to eat!", "It's time for lunch, let's go to restaurant to have a big meal." " The trip is hard, we need to eat well!"... Eating was the only thing he really cared about. Yesterday we planned to climb a snow mountain. At the height of 4500m, he got sick. It was not that high, but his sickness screwed up our plan to reach the top of the mountain. He didn't feel a bit sorry about it and he considered going to somewhere over 4000m was something. Liu said getting sick was normal, we should thank him because if we kept going higher, we'd probably die of coldness. Come on loser, it was only -10C, and the top was 5100m; nobody but you would die in that condition.
I've stayed with these three travelers past four days. Enough. And I'm bored. If I kept staying with them, my whole trip would be ruined. So this morning, I told them I wanted to spend one more day in JiuQiuan, where I am now. They'd head to Inner Mongolia one day ahead of me, so I'm totally on my own again, great!
I think I don't like the way they travel-- well planned and always so hurry. Sometimes I just want to slow down, like lying on the desert watching sunset, running in an empty road till I'm exhausted, staying in a hotel room wring my travel stories... I want to explore new towns by wandering through their streets and talking to local people rather than simply visiting some most famous tourist spots there. I want to be left alone on the trains or buses, reading my books, listening to my music, and watching the views outside the window rather than feeling obliged to talk with my travel partners, guilt about I've got nothing to say.
Meeting fellow travelers on the way is cool. But like meeting people in our lives, some travelers are interesting, some are not, some even annoying. I'd like traveling with people I feel like being with. They have something to offer for their personalities and unique life experience, they have a good sense of humor, they know how to have fun and how to relax, and they respect each group member's opinions. But this time, I'm just not that lucky. Glad I've said goodbye to them; I'm free again, and I have opportunity to make new friends on the road. I'm still traveling, and I'll be moving on.
It must be depressing living in a city like this, at least it would be for me--Xi'an would be one of the last cities I want to move to. It seems the environment of Xi'an has been badly polluted, and the climate isn't that good. Most of the time,
Yan'an is a sacred place in the Chinese revolution, it was there that the Chinese Communist Party Central Committee led the Chinese people in the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression during 1940's. Visiting some historic spots didn't interest me too much though, what I found more interesting was-- caves! Even in suburbs of Yan'an today, many people still live in caves. I talked to some local people and visited their home, they told me that about one third people live in caves; a regular family owns 4-5 caves, and a rich family owns more than 10. Not that they couldn't afford living in regular houses, but they just get used to living in caves which are warm in winter and cool in summer. It's comfortable to live in these cozy caves.